Back Story:
Recently, I rebuked a man for calling me sexy. He told me that I was "blowing things out of context". He also told me to grow up..and that he's not one of my high school students that I can just lecture just because I can't take a compliment. Hmm. Really? Because he's a thirty year old calling a twenty year old sexy. Normally I don't like to call people out or talk about specific instances in my life whilst blogging, but I can't help but rant about this. It. is. ridiculous.
So I've been thinking:
What kind of twisted world do we live in where maturity is equated to accepting a degrading compliment? What sort of legacy is he leaving to his young daughters? Would he want someone to call them sexy? Being called "sexy" isn't a compliment to me - it is offensive. Apparently, though, that makes me immature. Was I supposed to swoon at the thought of receiving male attention, no matter the degree of inappropriateness?
What, then, shall we use as a standard of measure in determining how mature one is? Status? Wealth? Sexual conquests? Success? Please let it never be. Though I may amongst the few and the proud, I am a classy woman...not some tramp that you can slap on the rear and demand her to get you a beer. I am a woman, called by my Lord to be a cut above what my culture considers socially acceptable. I will not tolerate that kind of behavior. I was made for greater things than to be someone's object of sexual desire.
You may consider this "blowing things out of context" but I consider it a step in the right direction for my gender and for myself. The only person who will ever be allowed to call me sexy is my future husband...and until I meet him, I better never hear those words from any man again. :)
Amen girl.
ReplyDeleteDear any man reading this,
Calling a girl who is not yours "sexy" means that you think of her in a sexual manner (hence SEX-y). The only kind of girl that would respond without hurting you is a tramp or someone who has very low self-esteem. And the way she is going to respond? Well, let's just say it'll be in your favor. Because she will have no class. So if you want to tell a girl that she is physically attractive, do it in a way that is respectful to the woman and shows your character as a respectable male. Or better yet, begin with other traits so that she isn't just a physical object.
kthxbai.
Love, Women Everywhere